A Portion in My Mouth: The Forbidden Divorce

31-10-2018

-        To preserve the cohesion of the family and its members...and so that the children who remain with him from the first wife are not left homeless. "Biladi"...and to preserve the legitimate marriage contracts that were registered when the marriage was announced abroad...in one of the European capitals..Oslo....in 1993...two months after the death of his first wife "Biladi", and after a quarter of a century.... the husband "Samid" began to appear as if he had been wronged by this marriage!! In addition to what we heard about his second wife "Sarah" exaggerating in swagger and arrogance..as if she were not that woman!! She ate away at her husband's rights while swearing and signing that she would take care of him and his offspring....with tenderness..and gifts..and forever.!!.. They did not have any child..because the defect is from her.!!.- according to my friend "Thalbah"---who told me the whole story!!..And although the husband "Sabir" no longer cares about anything....in light of this life imposed by the wife's rules..where it seems the second wife "Sarah" is insolent with the support of her family..who have special rituals that their daughter is the root of the family..!!...In her hand is the authority and the khula.!!..As for the husband....he is the absent presence...and yet...and despite the long duration of the dispute... the husband cannot pronounce divorce.!!....All he does is threaten it....!!.

-        And my friend "Thalbah" adds in the course of his story to me last evening...about the story of these two spouses..where the husband is a friend of my friend "Thalbah"...and it seems my friend felt sorry for his friend whose name was "Samid" because this husband from his first wife...the deceased.."Biladi" had twelve male children...around six of his children fled from the hell of their father "Samid"'s life with his second wife "Sarah"; they dispersed and she was the reason for their dispersal across this wide world. And they could not return!!..despite their longing for their father..and for their mother's grave...and for their homeland!!..where they were raised...As for the remaining children..five of them stayed near their father...while the sixth son...remained...in the homeland..but his father's wife "Sarah" convinced him to live under the wing of her family....the wealthy ones...they own factories..., in addition to that, and in an attempt to win over the husband "Samid" and fearing problems between her husband's children and her and her family, she also employed three of his children in her family's factories....and thus they check on their brother...there...and visit him...during their work period in the same factories in which they work...as for the other two sons..they do not work..even their father "Samid" turned away from them...because they keep insisting that he divorce his wife "Sarah" because of the hellish life with her..and their loss of their siblings who emigrated into the diaspora....but their father refuses divorce.....!!

-        I wished...that my friend "Thalbah" would not be so long-winded in his talk!! .It is enough that my friends criticize the length of my writings..on social media..which cannot bear length anyway.!!...But my friend.."Thalbah" showed signs of worry and sorrow...and he is anguished for his friend "Samid"...what made him endure until now...and why he has not pronounced divorce on his wife "Sarah" according to customs and traditions..and Sharia... my friend "Thalbah" wonders to himself but aloud...if there is a secret..in this strange marriage. I do not know it.!!
He asked my opinion..so I told him that, according to my memory, I recall a story like this from my readings and studies of history...but my story does not match...exactly...my friend "Thalbah"'s story. The natural individual case...but it resembles it, to a large extent..in its moral nature, and the numbers almost speak of the similarity..Glory be to God!! It is relations between countries...not individuals!!..It is the story of the people of Palestine...whose population reached about 12 million.(12). Sons..of whom about 6 (6 sons) are abroad...and the remaining 6 million in the homeland, 3 million (3 sons) in the West Bank and 2 million (2 sons)..in the Gaza Strip, and more than one million (one son...)...in Palestine occupied in 1948..This Palestine is considered a state among twenty-three sister Arab countries (23 brothers or sisters)...!!.But let us move away from what I recall from my story...and return to solving the problem of my friend's friend "Samid" and his wife."Sarah"!!..

-        Many people, including myself, have a clear opinion on handling such a sick marriage..like my friend "Thalbah"'s story..that the husband (whom I have long liked!!..who certainly exceeded his seventies..or eighties in age according to the sequence of events)..should refuse to send anyone on his behalf.!!..and should not receive any person or delegation from the side of his wife's family "Sarah".!!!..And I say to this husband....tell her and her family..."You are divorced no, rather you are divorced"....for you have the divine and natural right..to do so...and your family members...stand with you wholeheartedly, including the two sons who distanced themselves from you..and are angry with you..!!..And do not consider the employment of some children by Sarah's family in their factories, for sustenance is from God; your clan members, praise be to God, are many...according to what "Thalbah" told me, your siblings number about 23 brothers or sisters spread across all Arab countries....I do not remember!!..They can employ them with their uncles or aunts!!..for they live in abundance. They play with money as my friend "Thalbah" informed me!!...Do not listen, good husband, to others, !!..who will be surprised by such a divorce.!!..while you and she did not show any disputes....nor grudges!!..according to what my friend "Thalbah" told me.!!..Throughout this period...and despite God's dislike of divorce...He has permitted it...if certainty has been reached that separation is unavoidable...!!.So what are you waiting for, generous husband..!!....and you know the family situation....!!!

-        Do not let me "leave this morsel" in my mouth..for it has completely crushed me. O husband....so you must act..and divorce..and let come what may...Life, even the marital one, has stances....!! The red eye is necessary for her and for her family!!! Even in relations between states..!! Remove her before she removes you!!! And God is behind the aim...